Find purpose and happiness again, without feeling like you're betraying your late spouse.
You deserve happiness again.
You deserve a life fillled with meaning.
You deserve to move forward in a way that feels true to who you are.
I built a community for widow/ers who are ready to start finding their way forward to who they are now.
Which of these hits home for you?
You’re alone, lonely and not sure what to do with the rest of your life...
... you feel like your life has no meaning or direction since you lost your spouse. Family and friends have mostly faded out of your life. You barely even remember what it feels like to feel. You would very much like to feel happiness again, but you're not even sure what makes you happy anymore. You know one thing for certain - you don't want to keep going like this. You want a life worth getting out of bed for in the morning, filled with people and things that bring you joy. Right now though, you just want to rediscover who you are, feel more connected to yourself, and open yourself up to whatever possibilities lie ahead.
You want more from life, maybe even to fall in love again, but...
...you basically have to relearn everything you thought you knew about dating. But first, you need to figure out what you're looking for in a partner. And even before that, you have to figure out who you are in this new post-loss world you're living in. What are your values? What are your dealbreakers? What kind of partner do you want to be in your next relationship? And the ultimate question - how do you even move forward, in a way that honours the love you lost while making space in your heart for someone new? You're ready to figure that all out and start injecting a little hope into your life.
You're open to loving someone new and finding your person...
...and maybe you've even found someone wonderful, but are struggling to navigate things. How do you introduce a new love interest to family & friends and explain that you’re ready to move forward - into a life with someone new? And how do you even begin to navigate those conversations with your late spouse's family? You're balancing hope and guilt, excitement and stress, and you're ready to leave the guilt & stress behind. What you really want is to have some honest conversations with people who understand what you're going through, and get a little clarity on how to make that happen.
The person you were before your spouse died is no longer. That version of you belonged to a different life.
We The Widowed is about discovering who you are now.
Whether you like it or not, you've entered a new chapter in your life. The person you were died with your spouse, at least somewhat. How you rebuild from that is up to you.
Figuring out what matters to you and what might make life feel meaningful for you again are important next steps to becoming the best version of yourself that you can be.
That could mean learning to enjoy your own company, trying something you would have never done before, or opening your heart up to someone new.
There’s no correct version of what comes next. This community lets you take the pressure off and start exploring all of this with people who understand what you've been through.
81,000 widowed people have found my words compelling enough to follow along for more.
I speak from the heart with vulnerability on TikTok, sharing the highs, lows, and insights I've had after losing my wife, Tamara, to cancer 7 years ago.
A supportive community of widowed people just like you.
Join today and begin the next phase of your journey. You'll thank yourself.
Here's what other people I've helped have to say.
Losing a spouse changes you forever - but loss doesn't have to mean the end of your capacity for love, meaning or happiness.
There is nothing more painful than the loss of a spouse - research proves it. Devestation, heartbreak, anger, even physical pain are all documented impacts of becoming widowed.
When the pain begins to subside, renewal can begin. Maybe you feel something in you beginning to shift. You might feel levels of empathy you had never felt before. Maybe you see the good in others that you were blind to before. You're more patient, more kind, and more understanding than you ever were before.
This isn't coincidental. This is a natural shift as your heart heals and finds its way forward. This is you, rebuilding yourself in ways you never thought possible during those darkest days. This is you becoming the person that you (and your late spouse) would be proud of.
If this isn't happening for you yet, that's ok. Everyone's path is their own.
It can feel incredibly overwhelming during this time. Emotions swing from one extreme to another. Hope begins to creep in, only to be sideswiped by massive guilt. Visions of a brighter future are interrupted by painful visions of your late spouse's final days. You experience judgement from others, judgement from yourself, and fear of judgement from your maker, all for daring to dream of moving forward into a new chapter of the only life you have to live.
You could try to do it alone. You could try to think your way into a new headspace and heartspace. You could try to muster up the willpower to overcome the pain and the loneliness and the guilt on your own, but the reality is that willpower alone isn't enough. You need a community behind you, and with you, every step of the way.
A welcoming community, for widowed people just like you.
I created We The Widowed as a space for us to connect, learn and grow together. A place to belong & feel at home. A place where you can support other widowed people or be supported yourself, depending on where you're at on any given day.
- Get answers to your questions in a safe and supportive space.
- Connect with other widowed people who share your experience.
- Take part in helpful sessions on topics that matter to you.
We the widowed have experienced life’s greatest pain and have come out the other side.
We the widowed know what is truly important in life.
We the widowed know that we are worthy of love.
We the widowed wake up each day with open hearts and open minds.
We the widowed hold space in our hearts for those we’ve loved, with room for more.
We the widowed have an infinite capacity to love and be loved.
We the widowed know that we have the autonomy to live a life our late spouses would be proud of.
We the widowed are ready for the next chapter in our journey.
Ongoing support, connection & community.
Online get togethers every single week.
Join me and other members each week to talk about all things widowhood & dating. Ask the questions you're afraid to ask, and get honest, thoughtful answers.
Challenges that fuel your personal growth.
Take part in helpful exercises that I learned along the way or develop for myself as I navigated life and dating after losing Tamara.
Informative webinars on topics that matter to you.
Participate in monthly interactive virtual classes that develop your skillset, build your confidence and accelerate your progress.
Make room for life alongside your grief.
What will change in your day-to-day
- Spend time with other widowed people who want the best for you.
- Begin living life again in a way that feels true to who you are.
- Make decisions confidently, even with complicated emotions at play.
Who you will become along the way
- Become the best version of yourself, confident in who you are.
- Feel at peace with your life and the decisions you make.
- Know that you are supported and prepared for whatever comes next.
Why me? Why this community?
After losing Tamara to cancer, I quit my job to be there for our kid, 11 years old at the time. Years of aniticipatory grief had me pretty messed up. On one hand, I felt like I was over the worst of it. After all, what can be worse than watching the one you love slowly succumb to a horrible illness? On the other hand, my mind was racing with a million & one thoughts about what I should do next.
Well, the grief decided what came next. I spent weeks upon weeks curled up in the fetal position on the sofa, bawling my eyes out. Crushing feelings of hopelessness, debilitating feelings of regret and blood-boiling anger were daily occurrences during this time.
Eventually, the worst of the worst began to lift. The spells on the sofa began to get shorter and less frequent. I began to feel a sense of needing to make some kind of forward progress, even if it was just to get out of the house for a while.
As the acute grief began to subside, I began to think about my future. What did my next 40 years look like? Would I spend it alone? Would anyone even want to date a middle-aged widowed guy with full-time childcare responsibilities?
I began to distill these thoughts down to what I called my Absolute Truths. Ideas that were irrefutable, such as 'I loved Tamara with all my heart' and 'I did the best I knew how to at the time.' These truths allowed me to look within and find something solid amid a sea of uncertainty. They allowed me to begin taking those small steps forward, towards the life I knew I wanted for myself as I rebuilt from scratch.
As I type this, I know I've still got a ways to go. The grief didn't go away - it will be with me always. As will my love for Tamara. But I'm in a very good place. That 11-year-old child is now an 18-year-old adult with a kind heart and a bright future. I'm back to doing meaningful work at a job I enjoy. And I've met someone new and wonderful that I'm madly in love with. Sara and I have plans to buy a house together soon where we'll raise chickens, grow our own veggies and watch the sun set from a swing on the porch.
To be clear, it hasn't been easy - my kid has been in therapy for years, and still struggles with having lost his mom way too soon. My grief still blindsides me from time to time, impacting my relationships with others in ways I'm still trying to understand. And my foray into dating wasn't exactly smooth sailing. I encountered tremendous internal challenges as I navigated those early days of dating and new relationships, many of which went sideways when my grief reared its head.
I created this community so that I can share what helped me along the way. I know how hard it is trying to muscle through it alone. I don't want you to have to go through that. Join me inside the community and tell me what you're struggling with so I can help you find the path that leads to lasting happiness.
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- Connect with widowed people who are on a similar path as yours.
- Meet others and have your questions answered during weekly get togethers.
- Participate in challenges that facilitate growth and progress in your journey.
- Join informative monthly seminars on topics that matter to you.
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- Every benefit included in the Monthly membership
- One FREE 20-minute Q&A call with me to explore your biggest roadblocks.
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- Every benefit included in the Monthly membership
- Two FREE 20-minute Q&A calls with me to explore your biggest roadblocks.
- Priority access to 1:1 coaching (coming soon)
- Save $45 compared to paying month-to-month
What this community is.
We The Widowed is a place for friendship, conversation and mutual support. Everyone should be able to participate without feeling pursued.
What it isn't.
This community is not a dating or matchmaking service, and approaching members privately for romantic connections is strongly discouraged.
Frequently Asked Questions
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